Personal Development;Life Enhancement;Achievement
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Ready to Learn the Rules of Life?
Nov 4th
“Life is succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood” ~Helen Keller
I just finished reading “If Life is a Game, These are the Rules” by Cherie Carter-Scott Ph.D and it was a great experience! I am not sure why it took me so long to run across this wonderful little guide-book for life. It was originally published in 1998 and I do read a lot, especially in the fields of self-help and self-development. I am going to assume that I was not ready for the lessons contained in the book until now. (If Cherie should run across this entry, my apology in advance. I just could not figure out how to get that mark over the first “e” in your first name. Sorry about that!)
I am not going to repeat all of the ten lessons from the book; I am going to encourage you to buy a copy to read if you don’t already own one. I do want to share just the first three rules…
Rule One: You Will Receive a Body – You may love it or hate it, but it will be yours for the duration of your life on Earth.
Rule Two: You Will Be Presented With Lessons – You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called “life.” Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or hate them, but you have designed them as part of your curriculum.
Rule Three: There Are No Mistakes, Only Lessons – Growth is a process of experimentation, a series of trials, errors, and occassional victories. The failed experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that work.
These three rules really called out to me and in light of my recent illness and my new dedication to the health and vitality of my body, I know that I am ready to learn.
Do yourself a favor – go find this book. Here is a link to Carter-Scott’s website which is also a great education in and of itself.
Till next time faithful readers…Jack
“I am learning all the time. The tombstone will be my diploma.” ~Eartha Kitt
Why Not Live Your Ideal Life Right Now?
Jul 15th
“The greatest dreams are always unrealistic.” ~Will Smith
Here is the promised update on the “Come As You Will Be Party”. Again, the idea for this comes from chapter twelve of Jack Canfield’s book: The Success Principles. The basic concept is this: you get together with a group of people of similar ambition and you completely pretend to be living your dream life from five years from now. All of you talk up your current life: Where you are living; how you make your money; the kinds of cars that you now drive; the trips you are able to take; the people that you now hang with; the books you have written; whatever; this is your chance to feel what it will be like to really be living your dream life. You don’t worry about how you got there. You don’t worry about seeming outrageous. You listen to each other tell your more exciting dreams as though you have already accomplished them and you be excited for each other.
Do you want to feel what it is like to be a best-selling author? This is your chance. Do you want to feel what it is like to own a vacation home for your family and friends to use on the Amalfi Coast of Italy? (These are two of my dreams, but you can use them too!
)Feel that way now. What ever your dreams – come as though they are already real. Bring props, dress as you would, really be your future self; these are keys to making this exercise really useful.
For me, I thought this would be easy and feel very natural. I was surprised. I had a hard time at first really stepping into my future life. I had trouble really saying my dreams aloud to other people as though they had already happened – were already a part of my day to day existence. This was great information for me. I am not mentally ready yet for my dreams to happen. Wow! I am still reeling from that. I have some work to do on myself yet; this is not a surprise – I am just surprised how much work I have left to do!
Overall, this was a great experience. After the initial disorientation of living my future, I felt great! I could see and feel so many things that I had not even imagined and my motivation – Wow! I am completely committed now to doing what it takes to make my future life a reality and I gained lots of insight into what it will take to get me there. This was one of the most powerful exercises that I have done in years.
How about you? Do you know some like-minded ambitious people that would like to take a very powerful step towards making their dreams become real? Time to make some calls and schedule a party! Have fun and let me know how it goes.
Till next time…Jack
“Success isn’t a result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire.” ~Arnold H. Glasow
In Search of Excellence
Jun 16th
“The important thing is not to stop questioning”. ~ Albert Einstein
I am almost always looking for ways to achieve things more quickly, or more elegantly, or with less stress. One of my missions, almost since I first entered the business world, has been to get my assigned or desired tasks done as efficiently and effectively as possible. This works out well in my coaching and consulting work with clients and works out well in my ongoing quest for my own personal growth and evolution. People usually have already figured out slow and painful and stressful ways to try to accomplish things. They usually do not need a coach for that!
This leads me to modeling. In my early training in NLP, or Neurolinguistic Programming, I was taught the basics of modeling…extracting the processes, and beliefs, and actions that enable people to achieve extraordinary results. You knew you had done good a good job of modeling someone when you could achieve the same results in basically the same situation in the same amount of time. Modeling someone that already has the result that you want is a wonderful way to save time and effort. They have already figured out a path that leads to great results. Now this may not be the only path that leads to really impressive results; one is always free to model others and combine or meld the different patterns and look for an even better overall result.
Now this finally gets us to the heart of today’s note – modeling Albert Einstein. I wish Albert had written an autobiography – these are often marvelous distillations of wisdom and ideas – especially if written near the end of the author’s life. Although there are many books written about Einstein and many books that have collected his letters and essays, Einstein did not write an autobiography. Sad. Still, there is much to be learned from this genius of the 20th century just from second or third hand observation. What is second or third hand observation? It is reading a book; in this case reading a biography about Einstein.
I am currently reading “Einstein – The Life and Times” by Ronald Clark published in 1971. This is an interesting book, it certainly gives some great insights into Einstein, and it also covers a bit of world history during the great scientists’ life. This is not a light read – at 864 pages – it is anything but a light read. Not sure if I can recommend this book in general, I’m a bit less than half-way thru, I think this book is perhaps best for true Einstein followers and science history buffs. Still here is what I think I have modeled so far that I think contributed greatly to Einstein’s success:
- He was extremely good at being focused. He would often need to be interrupted and told it was time to eat or sleep.
- He loved to surround himself with other great and stimulating minds and would often talk for hours with others from the scientific community.
- He spent significant amounts of time immersed in music and sailing. It is my belief that he used both of these activities to free his unconscious mind to solve problems and invent new perspectives.
- From his early days as a patent application clerk to his college professor positions, Einstein excelled at getting himself jobs that paid him well enough while still allowing him ample time and energy to work on his scientific endeavors.
- Einstein was great at getting someone else to handle all of the mundane aspects of his life – cooking, cleaning, shopping and so forth.
I’ll go over these observations in another entry and look at the implications of them. For now, ponder this: If you were really focused on one great task and you surrounded yourself with other great minds and bounced ideas around on a very regular basis and you found activities that you loved that freed your mind to think and you made enough money efficiently so that you had lots of time to devote to your one great passion and you had someone else handling all of the little time stealers for you…what could you accomplish in a decade or so? (Ten years is about how long it took Einstein to put together the vast majority of the work that would make him famous.)
Till next time…Jack
“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” ~ Albert Einstein
Your Plan for Success
Feb 2nd
“The first wealth is health”. ~Emerson
This is the year! After so many years of being out of shape, this is the year that I return to fitness. This is a big statement – a big goal. I have been out of shape, in varying degrees of terrible, ever since I quite smoking more than ten years ago. So how am I going to do this? What am I going to do to give myself the best possible chance of success with this goal? Excellent questions.
In fact, these questions are so excellent, that I am going to devote the next few blog entries to developing my plan for success right in front of your eyes. This will allow you to see all of the elements that I use to create a nearly unstoppable plan for succeeding at any goal – not just weight loss. You will get all of the steps that I use with my clients – without spending any money.
Let me start by restating my goal for health in 2009: I will return to my optimal bodyweight before the end of 2009. So, that is a fairly clear goal, but not quite explicit enough. Whenever possible, you should put a very measurable number on your goals. When I say very measurable, I mean a goal that clearly states ‘what by when”. So, let me restate my goal: I will return to 195 pounds of bodyweight by the morning of December 31st, 2009. Now that is a clear goal and gives my brain really simple things to remember.
Is this a reasonable goal? What will I do to achieve this? Why have I failed in the past? What exactly will I do differently this time? Wow! More great questions. Come back next time and we will continue the process of building a virtually unstoppable “Plan For Success”.
Till next time…Jack
“They claim red meat is bad for you. But I never saw a sick-looking tiger”. ~Chi Chi Rodriguez