“Fall seven times, stand up eight”. ~Japanese Proverb

Last time I started to talk about what I do when I have set a goal – a result with a deadline – and I fail to achieve it.  I might have achieved part of the goal – within the time that I had allocated, or perhaps I didn’t achieve any of the goal.  Either way, what I do next is critical.

I’m going to start first by talking about what I don’t do.

  1. I don’t beat myself up.
  2. I don’t tell myself that I’m a failure.
  3. I don’t make myself feel terrible.
  4. I don’t make excuses (although I do look for reasons and patterns).
  5. I don’t quit.
  6. I don’t blame anyone else (even if they were involved).

All of these items involve negative motivation and although I recognize and use the power of negative motivation – moving away from something that you don’t want, I don’t start here when I am looking at goals that I failed to achieve in the time that I had given them to be achieved.

So what do I do and what do I coach my clients to do?  Come back next time and we will start to give you a nice clean and highly effective pattern to model.  Bye the way, how many of you have seen the Disney movie Meet the Robinsons?  If you haven’t, go find it.  I you have seen it, watch it again and look for the empowering beliefs and great self-talk that is nested into this movie.  I just love it!

I was saddened to read today about the death of the American actor David Carradine.  When I was a young man looking for role models, the show Kung Fu staring David Carradine was a favorite of mine.  I still own much of my love of helping people and many of my empowering beliefs to this show.  Thanks David (and of course the show’s writers and producers).  You can read more about David here and here.

Till next time…Jack

“He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else”. ~Benjamin Franklin