Personal Development;Life Enhancement;Achievement
seminars
Fear Must be a Counselor not a Jailer
Nov 28th
“Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt.” ~William Shakespeare
I am giving a seminar in Boulder Colorado next week called “Fearless Self Promotion”. I could have easily called this seminar “Getting Past the Fear of Rejection”. The fear of rejection and the failure to promote yourself and your business are tightly wound together. I can tell you from my own experiences in getting past the fear of rejection and the experiences that I have had in helping hundreds of clients to get past this same fear: Nothing will cause you more stress and make it harder to successfully grow your business and make it more likely that you will ultimately fail than the fear of rejection.
This fear is so common and often operates at a completely unconscious level. It manifests as procrastination, and stress, and confusion, and illness and so many other reactions and behaviors that it is commonly missed and the person trying to grow their business from a core state of “Fear of Rejection” has no clue what is going on. At the same time, I have worked with clients so disgusted with themselves, and their fears, that they are literally hating the entire aspect of their personality that is controlling this fear. Here is a strong belief of mine based on experience: If you hate part of yourself, you cannot possibly win.
The process of getting past the fear of rejection is a process that I mastered. I mastered it initially to help myself; More >
Finally! The Beta release of “The 9 Squares” MP3
Nov 12th
“Blessed are the curious for they shall have adventures.” ~ Lovelle Drachman
Well, that was more of an adventure than I was expecting. I recorded this mp3 numerous times until I got a copy where the sound quality was fair and the file size was not overly large. You can listen to the file right here, or you can hopefully get a download of the file by subscribing to my RSS feed. I haven’t verified that feature as working yet, being able to get a copy of the file from my feed, but I will know soon. Is that whole thing about my RSS feed gibberish to you? Well, email me and I will try to help. You need to know at least a little bit about RSS if you are going to be effective in your time online.
I wanted to thank Martin Laine from 1pixelout.net for the WordPress plugin that I am using on this blog. I am not the most technically savvy and I was able to fairly quickly get the plugin uploaded and configured and working. What you will be hearing on this post is directly the result of my material playing thru Martin’s plugin. Thank you Martin!
Do listen to this mp3 in a quiet and safe location. Do not use it in your car! Do not use it where you can be interrupted! Turn off your phones and treat yourself to some time just for you. Send me comments and experiences please. This is the beta version and I am working on the full release version for release around the 1st of December 2007. I would love to be able to take your experiences into account when I am tweaking the next version! The player is below. Try it out!
[audio:9 Squares MP3 beta.mp3]
And now for a picture of someone who will be very technically savvy and that right soon! More >
How to Install a new Peak Emotional State Part 2
Oct 30th
“This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; the being a force of nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy”. ~George Bernard Shaw
Last time I talked about choosing your first peak emotional state that you wanted to install. I am going to assume that you have done that. Now I want you to get some leverage on yourself…leverage for making this change.
Why do you want this new emotional state? What will it mean for you to have this? How will it change your ultimate destiny? How will it change what you are able to accomplish for yourself? For your family? For your friends? How great will it feel when you have successfully installed this change in yourself?
The 9 step exercise itself will be continually helping you with reasons to change. That is part of what it is designed to do. Answering these questions first, before you begin, will help you to “prime” yourself to make the process as effective and delightful as possible.
A now a piece from Richard Bach, perhaps most famous for this Jonathan Livingston Seagull book. This piece comes from “Running From Safety”. I would place this book in the top 5 books that have had the most profound influence on the last twenty years of my life. It if full of great and useful empowering states and beliefs. This piece I just love! More >
Ponytail and Changework
Oct 26th
There are always three speeches, for every one you actually gave. The one you practiced, the one you gave, and the one you wish you gave. ~Dale Carnegie
This post will have some additional information about using the NLP Generalization Technique that was demonstrated and practiced in the seminar on Wednesday, October 24th. I know that a number of the seminar attendees were profoundly affected by the exercise and are anxious to work with it more on their own. I am working on the newest generation of the MP3 self guided version of the technique and I will have the link out to those of you that sent me emails as soon as possible. Look to the end of this entry for more explanation of how to use this exercise.
It was a great seminar at the Boulder Chamber. We had about 30 people show up and that was just right for this day and this topic. We did some very intense personal change work and had a blast. Oh, and before I forget, here is a picture of my new ponytail, something I have not had since I was 16. I love it!
Here are some simple explanations that will help you with your recall and practice of the NLP based technique I demonstrated: More >